However, I find the writing style condescending at times and despite reassuring me that their book is to help parents in practical ways, I found very few actual strategies. Each one of the principles taught in this book is designed not only to help childrens' behavior, but their moral hearts as well. Theyre helping connect children with adults best suited to their needs ideally the adult will help guide the child over an extended period of time or however. Foster the safe, secure growth of your child's self-concept and world view. The growth phase between five and eight years of age, is a time when parental training and encouragement are major players in a child's developing world. It is a time when his intellect develops sufficiently to allow purposeful interac The growth phase between five and eight years of age, is a time when parental training and encouragement are major players in a child's developing world.
Great book and such a fast read! I first read the book pre-maturely, before my first child exhibited any signs of defiance, and before we had our second child. But if you're unfamiliar with Babywise or Childwise, you can still jump in with ages 3-7. I highly recommend this to any parent. Equip yourself with more than fifteen Childwise Principles for training kids in the art of living happily among friends and family. I love how this book goes right to the heart of the matter - simple reasons why I need to train my kids to be kind and non-destructive. She speaks confidently but appropriately with adults and peers and she hardly ever has meltdowns anymore. Overall a good read and I took away a few really key ideas, but the whole book could have been written in about 20 pages.
After picking it up again, I can see some of the most important things that we used to do unintentionally have slowly dissolved as our family has added another person. It didn't start out well but then the authors dropped the tone that was reading at least to me as rather condescending and patronizing and then it got really good. I began initiating some of the practices in Child Wise after breezing through half of the book and was pleasantly surprised at how well both my children and I responded. . Don't get me wrong, some of the principles were beautifully illustrated with real-life examples. Man this shit is hard.
She would be sweet and angelic one moment and in a total meltdown the next when something happened to cross her will. Things I learned from this book; 1 don't fear disappointment, or responsibility. I couldn't wait for them to just get to the point and tell me what to do. I first read the book pre-maturely, before my first child exhibited any signs of defiance, and before we had our second child. I underlined this book so much the first time through that it now looks like a well used college textbook! But I did get some essential reminders of things we need to work on with him, and some much needed encouragement for how to proceed with my daughter. These early school years awaken within a child a sense of fearful adventure in an ever-expanding world outside the confines of mom and dad.
This Christian book is water in a parched world that seems to be raising selfish kids. Caring enough about them to address their behavior and teach them. As I read I'm filled with a renewed sense of 'I can do this! This concept is foreign to most friends of ours with kids. These early school years awaken within a child a sense of fearful adventure in an ever-expanding world outside the confines of mom and dad. It seems to me that most parents already know this. I don't promise that it'll be the answer to all your problems, but I do believe it can make a significant difference in how you look at your child's behavior and how you choose to react to it. They know what they're talking about! But if you're unfamiliar with Babywise or Childwise, you can still jump in with ages 3-7.
But if it were easy, I'd be bored. This book ended up being the perfect counter balance to my other favorite parenting book Unconditional Parenting. Once I read this book, the small things are actually big problems. My husband was very happy as was I about the marriage coming first. Ideas about cultivating character and heart within our children. I really appreciate the idea of 15 min I of sofa time.
Now he is confronted with role functions, norms, and expected standards of conduct which sometimes conflict with each other as well as with his own self-centered perceptions. I love that this method is faith-based, but it isn't presented in a preachy manner. It is a time when his intellect develops sufficiently to allow purposeful interaction with adults and other children. We began requiring more respect from her and enforcing quick, responsiveness with non-reactionary regularity and it has changed her world. I don't agree with all of it - but there is much that is sound and usefull.
You do them no favors by making the road easy. It really gave us the courage to assume our role as parents not pushovers. For me, the examples really help me understand the concept. I plan to refer back and reread this book multiple times and probably try reading Babywise again. I happened across this book at a free book box and thought I would give it a try now that Aurora is 5yrs old. So good behavior comes from good moral understanding and not just fear of punnishment for breaking rules. This book ended up b I remember reading Babywise by the same authors when Aurora was a baby and it not making much of an impression for good or for bad.
On day one, our house became calmer, quieter, and the kids began listening and obeying with less complaint. As a case study: our three year old girl was getting out of hand with back talk, tantrums, and disobedient. I am excited to continue applying these principles. She also is smart enough to fight me to make sure i meant it. They just had a lot to learn yesterday.
I started reading this particular one long ago - never finishing it. Show affection in front of them me likey 3 this first phase of parenting is boot camp. Being pregnant and tired with baby 2, I somehow ended up with a 3 year old trying to rule the house. I realized reading Childwise we needed to fix these seemingly little issues quick. I remember reading Babywise by the same authors when Aurora was a baby and it not making much of an impression for good or for bad.